Delicious Kisses
Yup, that’s the yummy first kiss between Tris and Four in the movie Divergent. I thoroughly enjoyed it on the big screen, despite the slight awkwardness of having my 13 year old son right next to me!
Do you remember your first kiss? Was it good? More importantly, when was your last kiss and how was that? I’m not talking about a peck on the cheek or even the lips. I’m talking about a long, passionate, juicy kiss with someone you’re hot for. For me, it was last night. With my husband. Just thinking about it now, the morning after, brings a big smile to my face. Too much information? I don’t think so. It’s an important part of relationships, so why shouldn’t we talk about it?
I’ll never forget how excited I was when I stumbled upon this quote from a review of my book, Is This All There Is?:
“First thing I did after reading this book, I went and kissed my husband. Not just a peck, but a full on tongue twirling make love to his mouth kinda kiss. I wanted him to know that I desired him above all else.”
That’s the kind of kiss I’m talking about. Reading those words made me feel like all the work that went into the book was worth it, at least in that moment. She expressed exactly what I wanted women to do after reading the book, either fully enjoy and appreciate the passion in their relationships or work to find it again if it had been lost. Equally important to me was that single women who read the book would make great kisses a non-negotiable requirement for all future relationships.
The title of my first chapter is “No Kisses For Me.” Here’s an excerpt to explain:
He leaned in close and without thinking I started to move my lips toward his. His warm Colgate breath crept up my nose as he kissed the top of Jack’s head. Then he was standing again, brushing a piece of lint off his sleeve. Flames rising in my chest. I couldn’t remember the last time there had been a goodbye kiss for me.
The problem of the lack of kissing in Beth and Rick’s marriage is something many readers have commented on. Some have said they can relate as their marriages have also gone stale. Others have felt frustrated with Beth for being secretly resentful and not sharing her needs with her husband.
The perfect storm arises when Beth has too much to drink on a rare night out and a sweet, attractive former college student of hers confesses that he had crush on her when he was in her class. How can she resist a rare opportunity for the kind of kiss the reviewer above described, even though she’s a good person who wants to do the right thing? Here’s an excerpt from that moment:
Something inside me shifted. Rick hadn’t looked at me that way in years. My body started to tingle. His eyes burned through me. My heart was pounding so fast I felt faint. He wanted to kiss me but he was holding back.
Later in the story, as Beth continues to struggle with the impossible dilemma of how far to let things go with Dave, she wonders if they could both stop at kissing. But we all know that’s the not the way things work, right? Here’s a snapshot of that moment:
I started to believe that maybe he meant it when he said we could take it slow. Maybe we really could have just this, just these delicious kisses and nothing more. But I knew it wasn’t possible. In time, he would want more. I would want more.
I suppose the bottom line of my message here is to remind us all of how important kissing is in our intimate relationships. We must find the time and inspiration for hot, sexy, passionate kissing, no matter how long we’ve been together or how busy our lives are. If you’re not currently in a relationship, I hope you’ll consider the quality of kissing an important factor in the next one you enter!
*For those of you who are planning to read the sequel (thank you!), I’m shooting for finishing it this summer. It will have plenty of great kissing scenes – I promise! 😉
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I just saw “Divergent” with my daughter yesterday, and that kiss WAS hot!!
I do remember my first kiss, which wasn’t until I was 15. Unfortunately, it was horribly awkward because I had no clue what I was doing. But… we all gotta start somewhere, right?
Great post, Patricia! And I’m one of your readers who is looking forward to the sequel. 🙂
There is nothing better than a truly fabulous kiss. And not much worse than a really bad kiss.
My first kiss was when I was fourteen and I was so stunned I forgot to kiss him back. Probably why I didn’t get asked for a second date. However, my second kiss when I was fifteen was MUCH better and since I knew the person I kissed (my best boy friend), it wasn’t awkward at all. 🙂
That is a REALLY hot scene in Divergent. I’m going to have to see that movie for sure now!
Can’t wait until your sequel comes out!
My first kiss was when I was fourteen. Oddly enough I was in the woods on a weathered old fence. The kiss lasted so long that I found myself panicking. I didn’t know what I was doing or how to come up for air. I eventually tipped back and fell off the fence to release the suction.
I am happy to say my subsequent kissing sessions have been far better and involved significantly less slap-slick endings.
Can’t wait for the sequel!
Kisses,
Laura
Shelly and Erica, I had a terrible first kiss too! How interesting that I’m not the only one. Thankfully, I didn’t fall off a fence though, Laura! As if the awkwardness of the moment isn’t bad enough! So true, Anne. So true! Very well-said. Thanks so much for commenting, ladies!
My first kiss was not good at all – I think I was only kissing him because I thought I had to and I wanted to get my first kiss over with. There was no emotion, no passion, no trust – just getting it over with. There is nothing like kissing someone when you really, REALLY want to kiss him.
I so agree, Meredith! Nothing better! Seems everyone who has commented so far did not have a good first kiss experience, including me. Very interesting. Thanks so much for commenting!
My first kiss, like most others who have commented, was awful. I was shocked, and pulled away instead of participating. Awkward and embarrassing. Now I’m lucky to be married to a man who understands the importance of kissing. Sex can be great, but sometimes there’s nothing better than a really good kiss.
Please excuse me while I wipe the steam from my glasses! Love the post, Patricia!!! My first kiss was AWFUL, but things have improved quite a bit since then. My husband is a master with a slow, sensuous kiss, so I think that I will keep him. 😉
This is one of my favorite topics! I have been dating my guy for an eternity; okay, okay… five years. Still, it seems like an eternity! I almost said no to a second date because our chemistry was so intense. Isn’t that crazy? I mean the passion in the kissing and the hot way you feel for each other when it’s new WAS new to me, and I might have freaked a little.
So fast-forward five years and we almost never kiss now. We’re not married (proposal coming this year if I had to guess), and still young. We certainly never kiss like that, and I’ll admit, I miss it. I’ve put my foot down and I do get a goodbye kiss every morning and a goodnight kiss every night, but those are mandatory now – not because he just gets the urge to do so. So I think a little making out from time to time should certainly be a priority. 😉
My first kiss was with a boy named Robert Byron and it was awful 🙂 I remember a dry mouth and he smelled like lye soap! I was 13. My next kiss was knock your socks off good! I love a good kiss, especially during a slow dance 🙂 Fun blog post, Patricia!
Great blog. I have always felt like the first kiss was the deal maker or breaker. Chemistry in that kiss was like a preview of coming attractions. A guy who was an amazing kisser could get away with anything, for awhile at least.
I’ve been married 11-plus years, and I still remember our first major kiss. I thought he was such a nice guy. But he like pushed me up against a wall and kissed me. Like I smiled for a week. Wow. I remember thinking, he is not a nice guy. 🙂 It was so good that I married him.
Again, awesome post.
First kisses are important – even in the awkwardness, I think you can tell whether it’s for keeps or not.
What a fabulous post…where’s my husband??? 😉
My first kiss was nothing like that! When I was in Kindergarten little Timmy Doyle (who lived in the house behind ours, was in my class, rode my school bus, played together constantly), kissed me one morning in the coat room and promised to marry me when our parents let us. Poor Timmy, the teacher made him sit in the corner.
Wonderful post, Patricia! You make excellent points about the importance of kissing while slipping excerpts from your novel into the conversation. Loved that!
We haven’t done it in a while – but my husband and I used to hug for one full minute every day. When you’re having a super busy or stressful day, It can feel very awkward, almost like a waste of time, but it can also feel GREAT to just pause, for one minute, and do nothing but embrace.
So thrilled you posted this post on the Hump Day Blog Hop. Loved it!!